Anyone else have February not go at all as planned?

As I'm typing this, I'm on my fourth box of tissues in as many days, slamming back tea, advil, tylenol and benadryl, nursing an injured neck and shoulder that's seizing up and unable to wear my glasses--which makes life a lot more difficult.

I've had to cancel client calls, reschedule interviews, delay launches and allow myself grace for the things I cannot control without feeling the need to solve everyone else's problems.

And this brings me to my gratitude: I am so grateful I spent three years doing the WORK of getting into my body, learning how to feel safe when things spiral out of my control, trusting that discomfort is always temporary, and understanding what is actually my responsibility and what is someone else's.

Past me would be so dysregulated right now. I would feel like failure and over compensate. Past me would take on other people's emotions as my responsibility and I would push myself to do things I am not able to.

If you are facing illness, fluctuating capacity, or you've simply realized you've outgrown something or someone—that doesn't automatically make you or that thing or person wrong or bad.

Do you know how many times I purchased something and didn't like it, didn't use it, or let it sit there for years before I was ACTUALLY ready to do the work?

A LOT of times.

Let's lower the stakes with an example:

Imagine your favourite food or beverage company is launching a new product and you're super excited for it. Everyone who's tried it is raving and you finally get your hands on the thing. Then you try it, and while it's not bad, you don't get the hype. Sure, the protein nourished your body, but the flavour wasn't your jam.

Does that mean that you failed or made a mistake or wasted your money and time?

Or does it mean that you learned something new about yourself and have even more information available to make better aligned decisions in the future?

Or how about this?

I once invested $900 bucks when I wasn't yet making money to learn how to show up online and gain momentum to convert clients. When I got into the course, I realized I couldn't learn from the teacher. The way my autism works and they way they taught everything just did not jive. I took the worksheets, applied that knowledge to my social media and ghosted the program.

That teacher isn't (and wasn't) bad at teaching. Their tools weren't inactionable for me. I did not want to learn from a person who teaches in that style and couldn't have known that ahead of time. It was a life lesson. And now, when I'm researching someone to learn from, I check out their videos and audios first before investing money.

Neither one of us was wrong! I tried something new, it wasn't for me, and I moved on.

They kept teaching and the people who thrive off their style had massive results.

Two truths can simultaneously exist without anyone being wrong.

I can be super sick and need to take time to heal so I can support my clients on video and voxer AND they can need support right now that I'm unable to give them--without either of us being bad or wrong for it.

We both get to be disappointed without making the other person responsible for that, you know?

Tell me about a time in the comments when two things were true at the same time and no one was wrong for it?